Ep 36 - When Spanking Is Core to Connection: Kai and Sarah on Building a Healthy Kink Relationship (Part 2)

Is it possible to find a partner that matches your freak? In Part 2 of my conversation with Kai and Sarah, we dig into what it really looks like to build a relationship around a shared spanking fetish, emotional compatibility, and a power exchange dynamic that works in real life, not just in fantasy.

We explore how their connection evolved from long-distance play partners to a deeply aligned partnership, the structure behind their domestic discipline, and the rituals and rules that support their relationship. They also share how they navigate playing with others, how punishment shows up beyond spanking, and what happens when things don’t go as planned in a scene.

Whether you're dreaming of a dynamic like theirs, navigating kink in your own relationship, or simply curious about how this can look in real life, this episode offers insight, nuance, and a reminder that there is no one way to build something meaningful, just your way.

Episode Highlights:

03:48 Building a Relationship with Power Exchange

15:27 Daily Rituals and Alternative Punishments

21:47 Struggles and Acceptance of Spanking Desires

23:57 The Depth of Kinky Relationships

34:16 The Importance of Community

39:27 Rules and Consequences in Spanko Dynamics

44:46 Advice for Newcomers

46:42 Future Projects and Normalizing Fetishes

Read Kai’s Writings About Spanking:

https://fetlife.com/KaiDiscipline/posts/12433740

https://fetlife.com/KaiDiscipline/posts/11441429

https://fetlife.com/KaiDiscipline/posts/6366955

Connect with Kai and Sarah

https://fetlife.com/KaiDiscipline

https://fetlife.com/Stormborn9

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https://www.complicatedpleasures.ca

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Ep 36 - When Spanking Is Core to Connection: Kai and Sarah on Building a Healthy Kink Relationship (Part 2)

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